In FC Andílek a child is our partner, we respect his/her personality, his/her ability of choice, his/her ability to communicate, to express emotions and to solve conflicts and problematic situations.

Most of our lecturers, who teach in Andílek, are trained in “ To respect and to be respected“ educational method, which offers us an alternative approach towards:

How to communicate our just demans to the others (children and adults).

While bringing up our children we demand a lot of things from them (to keep their things neat and tidy, self-service, good manners and so on). One thought from “ To respect and to be respected“ method is that it doesn´t matter WHAT we demand but (more than we are able to admit) HOW we demand. The most commonly used “traditional“ approaches (e.g. reproaches, threats, instructions…) do not work. What are their negative impacts on children? According to “To respect and to be respected“ method use upbringing procedures and effective communication skills, which contribute to better atmosphere within relations and help to lower the number of conflicts with children, encourage their responsibility and self-respect.

How to deal with children or adults who indicate negative feelings.

Emotions change our perception and behaviour. While being upset we don´t listen to other people’s well-intentioned advice, logical arguments make no sense and questions are considered annoying. In FC Andílek we try, according to “ To respect and to be respected“ method , to understand children´s emotions and react to them with empathy, which helps the upset child to cope with his/her feelings and to calm down so that we (adults and children) can act on a rational approach again and solve out possible conflict.

How to react to conflicts among children and how to help children gain healthy interrelational habits.

In FC Andílek we, according to “To respect and to be respected“ method, use the approach of respectful communication while talking to children who indicate negative feelings and make use of it when dealing with children´s conflicts.

How to avoid PUNISHMENTS and WHAT to use INSTEAD

Punishments may sometimes work, but their effect is only short-term and, furthermore, punishments may be risky for the development of a child. In FC Andílek we, according to “To respect and to be respected“ method, distinguish natural consequences of punishment and we use appropriate effective communication methods in the situations when children make mistakes in their actions.

How to express appreciation instead of using praise and rewards.

Praise is not the same like appreciation. Praise teaches dependence on authorities and how to do things to satisfaction of others – not for the thing itself. Rewards as well as punishments reduce inner motivation and have even more perils. In FC Andílek we , according to “To respect and to be respected“ method, express appreciation instead of using praise and rewards, which leads to development of healthy self awarness in child and to development of inner motivation.

The aim of “To respect and to be respected“ method is especially the improvement of communication relationship between children, but the effective communication skills which this method teaches can even help adults to have healthy relations with their partners, co-workers and friends. In FC Andílek we use R+R method and we believe that this approach will reflect on the quality of our relations with children and their parents as well as in the quality of our courses and services. We use this method because we are convicned of its usefulness, truthfulness and considerable impact upon human relations.